don’t stop chasing. + 0 comment(s)
I think that one of the biggest reason why relationships do not work out in the long run is because at one point, one side (or both) stops trying.
Before one claims another person as their significant other, they would do anything to make that person happy.
They would chase, they would flirt, they would be charming.
They would send daily morning and goodnight texts every time you wake up or go to sleep.
They would write corny messages and pick up lines just to make sure that there is a smile upon your face.
But once they claim you as theirs, all of those things eventually stop.
The 5 page texts slowly turn into 1.
The constant calls turn into not calling
at all.
And the lovely endearments turn into daily arguments.
In order for a
relationship to work, don’t ever stop chasing.
Just because the person you want
is now consider “yours”, it does not mean they deserve anything less than the
time when you’re trying to win them over.
Take a
second and think about the one thing that promotes attraction the most.
I’ll
give you a hint.
The answer is not physical
looks, wealth, having things in common, or even the person’s personality.
I
know, it’s crazy right?
The answer is actually proximity.
Study after
study finds that most people tend to become attracted to people who are
physically close to them.
The theory is called the mere exposure effect,
and it states that we tend to become attracted to a novel stimuli if it
was repeated over and over again.
I am sure you once saw a very attractive
person who caught your attention while passing by your car, then you never saw
him/her again.
Why do most people forget about that very attractive person a
few days later?
Simply because they never see that person again.
If the
stimuli wasn’t reinforced we tend to forget about it even if we liked it.
It
really is true. Just talking to someone a lot can do so much.
You may not even
see it coming.
But If you spend a considerable amount of time with someone, you
could be friends one day, and before you know it, you’ve completely fallen head
over heels in love with each other.
Maybe this has happened to you.
You can’t
fight it, but why would you want to?
It’s a beautiful thing, really.
A bird does
not sing because it has an answer.
It sings because
it has a song.
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